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Breaking Up and Moving On
8 Things that will heal a broken heart.

Breaking up is never fun. The end of a relationship
means the beginning of a period of mourning and
healing for both people. If the break up was mutual
both people will experience a period of adjustment
where they are getting used to no longer being
together. If the break up was not mutual the person
who ended things may be dealing with guilt and
feelings that they may have made a mistake. The
person being broken up with will definitely have to
adjust, first to being rejected and second to life
without somebody they still care for. How do you
get through those first few weeks? Here we list
eight essential things everybody must do in the
early days of a break up to let the healing begin.

1. Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, this isnt
being immature. Seeing your former flame can
bring out emotions and may cause you do to or
say something you will regret. In the first few
weeks the best thing you can do for yourself is not
be where you know they will be.

2. Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get
everything out so that you wont hold it inside. Your
friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the
situation but you need to let out all your feelings
and thoughts or they may come back to bite you
later.

3. Cry if you want to. Its OK to cry over a loss.
Dont hold back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe
and private place where it is unlikely to get back to
your ex. You dont want your tears to be used as a
guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any
pain not make your lover come back.

4. Let go of mementos. Put away or give away
anything and everything that reminds you of the
relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be
out of mind until you are able to remember the
relationship without longing for it to still be going
strong.

5. Dont slip up and get together with your ex.
When you are feeling sad or missing a relationship
it can be very easy to fall back in to the arms of
your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set
you back and lets face it, if things ended the
relationship wasnt perfect to begin with so why
would you want to rekindle things?

6. Focus on all the things about your ex that
drove you crazy, turned you off, or that you just
plain found annoying. Think about these things
often and replay them in your mind over and over.
Dwell on them. It will make you feel better to
remember that your former flame was not perfect
and that there are things you wont really miss.

7. Think about the mean, cruel or rude things
your ex may have done in your relationship. Really
give these things play in your memory. Remind
yourself that somebody who truly cared for you
would not have done such thoughtless things and
tell yourself (over and over) that you are better off
without that kind of ego crushing behavior in your
life.

8. Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick
with it. Dont pass notes through friends. Dont
make any calls. Stay away from instant messaging
or texting on your cell. Just dont contact your ex
until you are totally and completely sure you no
longer want to be with him or her.